New mom in DC metro area (live in PG county, work in Arlington, and willing to drive in DC, MD or northern VA) seeks a mom tribe to do this motherhood thing with. Hoping to build long term relationships with mom friends who become true friends.
Me: Love to laugh, not a know-it-all or holier-than-thou mommy. Have been in DC since college, but now living in Maryland. I embrace my #blackgirlmagic but love everyone. Currently have only one child (but hoping for more eventually).
You: Have as few or as many kids as you like. Please enjoy brunch, self-care pamper sessions and occasional outdoor adventures. Bonus points if you enjoy rose’ or margaritas. Must be willing to be honest, and vulnerable (at least after a couple of meetups or our second glass of wine.) Not too religious (a little church is cool) and not focused on networking.
I’ve been so excited for motherhood, and my husband and I were fortunate to conceive quickly once we started trying. I have friends and line sisters who’ve had children, so I’m not alone, but like many people in DC, they didn’t stay here permanently.
Since I’ve been on maternity leave (government worker here, who banked a LOT of sick time for this time with my baby) I’ve found that the days get longer and I miss the company of grown-ups. I LOVE my little girl, and the time we spend together, but I’d love for us to get out more.
I miss feeling like a person.
You know what I mean- I don’t get dressed in anything besides leggings. Are we contouring, still? Strobing? Have box braids gone back out of style?
And even after just a couple of months, I feel like I’ve lost every part of my identity that isn’t “mother”.
I’m lost on the latest gossip and my all my reality shows since I’m trying to avoid screentime for the baby. Is 90 Day Fiance’ even on anymore? What Real Housewives are pretending to like each other these days? I miss the me that went to happy hour, homecoming, and on impromptu trips to Afropunk.
Please tell me I’m not alone in feeling this way as a new mom.
My husband is amazing, but he still gets to go to work (he’s taking some paternity leave when I go back in the office, but will mostly just telework.) He just doesn’t get it when I say I’m tired, because all he sees is that I’ve been home all day.
And he thinks it’s crazy that I miss my job, the deadlines and putting on business casual.
I missed the tickets to this year’s Momference (because mommy-brain is real and those tickets sold out FAST), and I can’t wait nearly a whole year to make friends that live nearby. I need a mom tribe too!
If you’re looking for mom friends, I’m looking for you.
Feeling this way? DCMM would love to help you connect to other parents like you. Join us in Pregnant & Parenting in the DC Metro Area and let’s make some mom magic happen!
