As a new parent, keeping a baby calm and happy is a really big deal. A crying, overstimulated baby is like nails on a chalkboard to a new parent, and can trigger all kinds of feelings. 

Is my baby hurting? Is something wrong? 

Am I the “something” that’s wrong? Why can’t I help? 

But you can help. And if you’re responding to your baby’s cries, then you never need to worry about if you’re a good loving parent. 

Even good moms with good instincts need some tricks up their sleeves though. 

As a postpartum doula, one of my favorite tools is the 5Ss. They’ve been used instinctively by mothers everywhere for generations and popularized by Dr. Harvey Karp, of Happiest Baby on the Block, and SNOO fame. 

These work consistently with babies, particularly those in the fourth trimester, because they mimic the conditions of the womb. After being held close inside of you, warm and safe, your child is still adjusting to life out here with the rest of us. And the 5 Ss remind her that all is well. 

Ready to learn the magic that I use as a postpartum and infant care doula? Here it goes- the 5 Ss: 

Swaddle your baby.

Wrapping her up like a baby burrito makes her cozy. Lots of new parents say “my baby doesn’t like that”, but sometimes, as adults, we project a little bit onto our children. We have to remember that babies are born with an intense startle reflex that continues for months, and swaddling calms them so they no longer feel like they’re falling. 

Hold her in a side-lying or stomach position. 

Once swaddled, hold your baby close, either on her side, belly to belly with you, or with her tummy supported by your forearm. *Please note- this is NOT to sleep, but while being held and soothed. 

Shush loudly in her ear. 

This helps stop any crying and comforts her, because inside of your uterus was loud! You’re becoming your newborn’s very own white noise machine. 

Swing

While her head is supported and she’s being held close, rock your baby back and forth in your arms. The swaying mimics the feeling of all that walking you did while pregnant (remember, any amount of walking is a lot for a tiny person who’s never done it). When you moved, it created a rocking sensation inside of you. 

Suck

Babies are born with a sucking reflex, not only to eat, but for comfort. Offering your baby your breast, a pacifier or even a pinky finger comforts them. 

This is simple and intuitive for many new parents once they learn it. And it works. I’ve tested it over and over again. 

Want to see the 5Ss this in action? Check out our Youtube video, or reach out today, and we’ll come teach you in person!