It’s time you find the right doula. So you’ll probably go to google, ask friends, or get a recommendation from your provider, to find out your options. And then, you’ll likely spend some time doing at least one doula interview.
Clients usually aren’t completely sure how this conversation should go. Since I’ve participated in more of these doula interviews than I imagine you ever will, here are some questions that I think are important:
Are you available for my due date?
No matter how lovely someone is, if they’re spread too thin- it makes it difficult to show up for you. This is part of why I became a full-time, professional doula, and built a team. We can give our clients true on call availability.
Why did you become a doula?
This question can tell you a few things. It gives you some background and it may allow you to connect if something in the story strikes a chord with you. The question also lets you learn about their motivations. At DC Metro Maternity, we all do doula work because we care deeply about families and we’ve come to specialize in working with Black women, families of color, and parents who are having high-risk pregnancies or postpartum periods.
We want our clients to know that our work is all about them and we don’t have other motivations.
What training have you taken?
While most doulas were natural “doulas” (we tend to be able to listen and make other feel comfortable) before we ever set foot in a birth room, in order to be a professional, training is important. It makes us more well-rounded, and gives us important information and perspective. Completing up-to-date, thorough training and working towards certification is one way to show commitment to giving our clients the best possible service.
All of the doulas at DC Metro Maternity have taken doula training and completed certification before you have a doula interview with them.
How will you work with the rest of my team?
Make sure that your doula prioritizes making partner, family and providers comfortable. We believe our job is to put partners at ease and keep them as involved in the process as they and my client want them to be. And to it’s important to us to build bridges with providers– we need their expertise and you need to trust them.
Your experience is best protected when everyone is working together, and you should be able to depend on your doula to make it happen.
Tell me about your experience.
Every birth and family is different, so I don’t think that numbers give clients an accurate picture of a doula’s skills. It’s not how we hire. But doulas should have experience in support to pull from, and confidence in their ability to help you.
What’s your birth or parenting philosophy?
This is a bit of a trick question, because I don’t think that your doula should have a philosophy regarding your family.
The doula’s opinions don’t matter when it comes to getting what you hope for, so watch for anything that indicates bias. Even if you agree with the opinions that a doula expresses, it’s important to know that things come up, and you should be free to change your mind.
The last thing you should fear is doing something that conflicts with your doula’s preferences.
It’s better to find this out during a doula interview, than later down the line when she grimaces as you prepare a bottle of formula.
When would you join me in labor? What techniques will you use? What would you do during a postpartum shift?
No matter what service you are planning to use (labor, postpartum or both), your doula should be able to describe to you what the support will look like. Get an idea of if you will get what you need, and if they’ll be able to adapt in a professional manner to anything that comes up.
Doula work can be something of a mystery, even when you know that you want the support. But after interviewing your doula, you should have a good idea of exactly what she’ll do for you.
What happens if you are unable to attend my birth?
None of us wants to miss a client in labor. But we have to have a plan. Your doula should be able to tell you who will attend your birth, if something unforeseen happens to them, whether it’s a partner, backup, or someone from a group of doulas.
This is why you’ll learn that we work in teams for labor. We make sure that we can show up for our clients.
What is your fee? What does it cover? What does your contract look like?
Professional doulas have standard agreements with their clients. This makes sure that everyone has the same expectations, and provides reassurance for both of you. Make sure that you feel comfortable with everything that you’re signing, and ask any questions you need to.
We talk about this during your first conversation with us at DC Metro Maternity. Then you receive a welcome packet or custom proposal with everything in writing before you do a doula interview with the team that will support you.
And the final thing to notice, isn’t so much a question for the doula, as for you.
How do you feel during this interview? Whether in person or over the phone, are you at ease? Did the doula respond well to you, and make you feel confident in yourself? If so, then they might be great at their job!
Interviewing your doula is an opportunity to trust your instincts. You’ll know if it’s a good fit. I hope this guide helped, and I’ll see you soon, for more on doulas.
